They tolerate differences poorly, are very competitive, and resist giving credit to anyone other than themselves. They don't want to destroy you; they just need to be better than you.If you are waiting for them to say "I'm sorry," don't hold your breath. Truly, their emotional stability depends on this relationship scenario.
They get some kid of fix from winning in video games that they can’t get irl because they are too lowly.
Their behaviour seems ‘normal’ to us because it’s just like our parent’s behaviour, so it doesn’t raise any red flags.
Anything that is familiar, whether good or bad, feels comfortable.
It’s easier for men to know other men, you can easily say if such guy is a player or not; but it’s sometimes difficult for women due to the mixed signals. I wish there was a way – a kind of test for women to figure out who can walk their talks, who is genuinely compassionate and kind, before we got emotionally invested. I observe how they treat waiters etc., yet some of men are really good at hiding their true selves for a long time (until they’re sure of you). I wish women could have practical tools to measure up men before they got involved and eliminate the narcissists/players. You made a statement: “It’s hard to tell if a man is a good guy.
I’m physically a very attractive woman, and this is sometimes a real curse since a lot of men compete for my attention, and they all seem nice, compassionate, chivalrous, and generous at the beginning, even the alphas and know-it-alls. I would love to have a magic wand that would let me know if I’m wasting my time.” Well, you’re in luck, my friend.